Can a woman really drive a man
crazy?
It depends
on the man. If he is wise he becomes a henpecked husband; if he is not
so wise, then there is no other way than to be crazy. That’s why ninety-nine
point nine percent of men decide to be henpecked husbands - just to
survive.
Nothing
is wrong with the woman; she is not deliberately trying to drive you
crazy. It is just that their minds function in a totally different way.
In fact that is their attraction; their polarities function like a magnetic
field. The more different a woman is, the more she will attract you.
If she is like you, thinks the way you think, the attraction will be
lost. There will be no tension; the relationship will collapse.
The relationship
is like an arch. When you make an arch you put bricks against each other;
their very opposition creates the strength, and the arch can support
the whole building. But the strength depends on the opposition.
A living
relationship between a man and a woman is bound to be little bit crazy.The
man cannot drive the woman crazy because his argument, his way of thinking
is logical. The woman’s way of thinking is logical, but that is her
way; that’s how she is made. She functions instinctively at the lowest
and intuitively at the highest. Man functions intellectually at the
lowest and intelligently at the highest. The way of instinct and intuition
is the way of illogic. Logic cannot drive the illogical person crazy;
if anything is going to happen it is going to happen to the logical
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Craziness
is part of the logical mind. Craziness simply means your logic is no
more functioning and you are at a loss what to do. You love the woman,
you would not like to lose her. You try in every way to understand her.
But whatsoever you do, you are also helpless - you can do only logically.
And logically she is not comprehensible that way she is very mysterious.
You can devote your whole life to studying a single woman and you will
not be able to figure out what is what.
She never tries to understand you.
The illogical fuctioning of the psyche is not interested in understanding;
it simply reaches to the conclusions without any procedures-it jumps
to the conclusions. And the miracle is that the woman is almost always
right and you are almost always wrong. That drives you crazy!
A woman won the lottery. When the
husband came he was surprised; He asked how she managed. She said, “In
a dream the figure 7 appeared three times. So I figured out that three
times seven means twenty-eight.»
The husband was aghast. He said, “Then
what happened?”
She said, I purchased the ticket with
the number twenty-eight and I won the lottery.”
The husband said, “But three times
seven is not twenty-eight, it is twenty-one
The woman said, “Then you be the
mathematician, but I have won the lottery!”
If you watch the functioning of the
woman’s mind you can see it clearly: it is impossible to understand
it. The very effort will drive you crazy. It is not just accidental
that Buddha escaped from his wife, Mahavira escaped from his wife. You
cannot escape from the world. Where will you escape to? At the most
you can escape from the woman who is driving you crazy.
A woman can really drive a man crazy,
but still your cooperation will be needed. Without your cooperation
nobody can drive you crazy: If you stop trying to understand her and
start enjoying her, she cannot drive you crazy. If you try to understand
her, naturally you will stop enjoying her, and then she is bound to
drive you crazy.
Rejoice in her! Rejoice in her differences,
rejoice in her different approaches towards life. , Rejoice that she
is not a man but a woman. She does not think like you. Not only is her
body. different from yours, her psyche is also different. And once you
forget trying to understand her, there is no way for her to drive you
crazy.
When you are “with your woman, put
your mind aside. Become more existential and less intellectual. Love
her, dance with her, sing with her, but don’t try to argue with her.
As far as argument is concerned, always agree with her and you
will never be at a Ioss, And any way, even if you argue, finally you
will have to agree with her.
Courtesy Osho Times/
www.osho.com
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